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The Heart Is a Shifting Sea

Love and Marriage in Mumbai

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Winner of the Silver Nautilus Award for Journalism & Investigative Reporting

""A book that truly is impossible to put down."—Washington Post

""This remarkable debut is so deeply reported, elegantly written, and profoundly transporting that it reads like a novel you can't put down. It's both a nuanced and intimate evocation of Indian culture, and a provocative and exciting meditation on marriage itself.""—Katie Roiphe, author of The Violet Hour

In the vein of Behind the Beautiful Forevers, an intimate, deeply reported and revelatory examination of love, marriage, and the state of modern India—as witnessed through the lives of three very different couples in today's Mumbai.

In twenty-first-century India, tradition is colliding with Western culture, a clash that touches the lives of everyday Indians from the wealthiest to the poorest. While ethnicity, class, and religion are influencing the nation's development, so too are pop culture and technology—an uneasy fusion whose impact is most evident in the institution of marriage.

The Heart Is a Shifting Sea introduces three couples whose relationships illuminate these sweeping cultural shifts in dramatic ways: Veer and Maya, a forward-thinking professional couple whose union is tested by Maya's desire for independence; Shahzad and Sabeena, whose desperation for a child becomes entwined with the changing face of Islam; and Ashok and Parvati, whose arranged marriage, made possible by an online matchmaker, blossoms into true love. Though these three middle-class couples are at different stages in their lives and come from diverse religious backgrounds, their stories build on one another to present a layered, nuanced, and fascinating mosaic of the universal challenges, possibilities, and promise of matrimony in its present state.

Elizabeth Flock has observed the evolving state of India from inside Mumbai, its largest metropolis. She spent close to a decade getting to know these couples—listening to their stories and living in their homes, where she was privy to countless moments of marital joy, inevitable frustration, dramatic upheaval, and whispered confessions and secrets. The result is a phenomenal feat of reportage that is both an enthralling portrait of a nation in the midst of transition and an unforgettable look at the universal mysteries of love and marriage that connect us all.

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    • Library Journal

      May 15, 2018

      Journalist Flock's intention to write about "the Indian love story"--"because it seemed more honest and vulnerable," especially when compared to her parents' multiple failed marriages--began in 2008 when she first lived in Mumbai. Although a spinal injury unexpectedly sent her back to the States, Flock returned in 2014 to finish the book--her first--she started about three couples she calls "romantics and rule breakers": celestially misaligned Veer and Maya, who live separate lives together; childless Shahzad and Sabeena, haunted for decades by infertility; and online-matched Ashok and Parvati, who marry as near-strangers and grow to love each other. While the majority of Sunil Malhotra's narration is expectedly straightforward reportage of what's on the page, Malhotra sprinkles the narrative with spot-on characterizations: a young woman's shy agreement to marriage, a blustering father-in-law, a fortune-telling sage, an understanding doctor, and a sniping stepmother-in-law, among many others. VERDICT Western readers intrigued by distant cultures will appreciate the novel-like exposition here; literary purists might bristle at the visitor's white lens through which the most intimate details are revealed. ["All readers interested in Southeast Asian culture, as well as scholars of anthropology, sociology, and other social sciences, will be fascinated with this accessible account": LJ 2/1/18 review of the Harper hc.]--Terry Hong, Smithsonian BookDragon, Washington, DC

      Copyright 2018 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

    • AudioFile Magazine
      Two experienced narrators, Sunil Malhotra and Nicol Zanzarella, deliver this extended reportage about modern love in Mumbai, India. Zanzarella gives voice to the author, American Elizabeth Flock, and her explanatory comments about the story behind this collection. Malhotra then takes us into the lives of three real-life couples: Veer and Maya, Shahzad and Sabeena, and Ashok and Parvati. In alternating sections of each chapter, he retells the intimate details of how these couples come together and how hard they have to work to hold onto their relationships. Malhotra's delivery is steady and firm, like a father telling his children the stories of days gone by--except these tales could be of any two people passing on Mumbai's busy streets. M.R. © AudioFile 2018, Portland, Maine
    • Publisher's Weekly

      Starred review from October 9, 2017
      Journalist Flock invites readers into the homes, lives, and marriages of three couples—one Marwari Hindu, one Sunni Muslim, and one Tamil Brahmin Hindu—living in Mumbai in this multifaceted portrait of love and marriage in modern India. Layered with history and glimpses of the varied cultures compressed into one vivacious city, the book pays as much attention to the lives of its subjects as it does to that which binds them together: the rituals of courtship and intricacies of marriage law, religious observances and festivals, and changing conventions that are seeing more couples choosing to live apart from their families and more women choosing to work outside of the home. Flock finds people trying to find happiness within the slipknot of tradition, longing for film-style romance within their arranged marriages, and searching peace with their lives inside a city and a country undergoing rapid population growth, Western influence, and rising far-right sentiment. There’s Ashok and Parvati, who get to know one another while planning a wedding (their courtship was arranged by their parents using an online matchmaking service); Shazhad and Sabeena, whose failure to conceive leads them to a more liberal practice of Islam (Sunni law doesn’t recognize adoption); and Maya and Veer, career-oriented individuals who deal with infidelity and Maya’s need for independence. Flock approaches the histories, hopes, dreams, and disappointments of her middle- and upper-middle-class couples as a reporter, not a storyteller, and the book is better for it, steering clear of caricature and sentiment, and letting each of her subjects emerge in the details of his or her own circumstances. Ostensibly a study of marriage as experienced by the people in it, Flock’s book also provides a vivid portrait of a nation in transition, through the lives and desires of its most progressive city’s residents.

    • Kirkus

      December 1, 2017
      Intimate portraits of three marriages reveal family life in Mumbai.Flock, a reporter for PBS NewsHour and former investigative reporter for Forbes India Magazine, makes her literary debut with an absorbing, candid look at three couples as they confront life in a changing India. While families prefer marriages to be arranged, young couples imbibe notions about love and romance from Bollywood movies. One young husband worries about not having a car: in films, he reflects, "men took women out on long drives in their car or on their motorcycle. It was how they fell in love." Parents hire matchmakers, while single men and women try to find true love from dating sites and events. Fathers exert draconian control over daughters who yearn for autonomy. Flock lived with the couples for a while, observing their interactions; her journalistic style pays off. One couple shared their online chats with her; others kept in touch by email for nearly a decade. Each marriage faced problems. For Veer and Maya, their relationship was fraught from the beginning because Veer had been in love with another woman, who rejected him; and Maya, frustrated and volatile--and, it emerges, a victim of sexual abuse as a child--had attempted suicide. Her restlessness and Veer's obsession with work strained their marriage. Maya considered divorce, but her reasons for unhappiness did not come under the stipulations of the Hindu Marriage Act; instead, she has affairs. Shahzad and Sabeena faced Shahzad's sterility; in a culture that expects marriages to grow into families, Shahzad felt desperate to prove his manhood, consulting medical doctors as well as fortunetellers, herbalists, and quacks. Ashok and Parvati, both Tamil Brahmins, felt pressure to marry within their caste and religion, although Parvati had been in love with a Christian man, inciting her father's rage, and Ashok had not yet found a companion. Brought together by a matchmaking site and affirmed by astrologers, they agreed to marry after meeting in person only briefly.An eye-opening exploration of how tradition and star-studded dreams shape love in modern India.

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    • Booklist

      December 1, 2017
      Magnificent, over-the-top romantic gestures; a war waged for one woman's love; and happily-ever-after Bollywood films paint a clear picture of romance in India. But real life, as three married couples show in this book, is more complicated. Whether her subjects eloped in defiance of the bride's father or were brought together by an online matchmaker, Flock puts you at the center of their stories in an impressive feat of reporting, bringing forward details culled from encounters and interviews over several years. The challenges faced by each couple are, in many ways, universalinfertility, infidelity, spats over finances and family. But they are also unique to the cultures they belong to in India, where Western ideas jostle uneasily with Indian tradition. This is particularly evident in the great control that the parents exercise over their grown children's lives, from selecting who they will marry to controlling their daughters-in-law once they move into the family house. These three marriages, without the Bollywood polish, offer an unforgettable look at both the risks and rewards of real-life romance.(Reprinted with permission of Booklist, copyright 2017, American Library Association.)

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